Now that you have your script written out, I am going to walk you through exactly how to confidently share it with your man. Be prepared to rock his socks, girlfriend! He’s going to love this 🙂
EAM by Text
Sharing your movie by text is great because is it’s easy to be bold behind a keyboard, especially if you are new to naughty conversations. You can say explicit things even if your face is flaming red with nervousness. It’s a great way to get comfortable with the dialogue, have time to craft great replies, use timing to build anticipation, and gain confidence in this type of conversation with your guy.
Because he won’t have the benefit of hearing the tone of your voice or seeing your body language, you will want to use emoticons as you are sharing your story. Smiley-faces and winks are going to help convey playfulness when appropriate.
If you opt to use text messages, send him an opening text that tells him you are going to be sharing a story with him. Let him know you’ll be doing the typing and he can sit back and enjoy.
It’s a good idea to ask for reply back so you know he’s actually got his phone right there with him.
Something like: Honey, I have a fun little story I want to share with you over several texts. Let me know when you are ready for me to begin 😉
Once he’s given you the green light, grab your script and start typing it out. Send it just a few lines at a time. Use the “…” symbol to indicate you’ll be sending more in a minute.
You want to break it up this way because sending it all in one super lengthy text can create technical issues. Some phone carriers will jumble up long texts and the messages may arrive on his end out of order. You don’t want that to happen!
The other reason you want to break up the story with short texts is that you can build anticipation this way.
Right before you get to a really juicy part of the action, you can wait a few minutes. Leave him anxiously hanging there. Teasing him. He may get antsy and ask you to continue. Toy with him and say, “Patience my love,” or “Ok, good, I still have your attention.”
You can also break down a long movie plot over a few days.
Send the first quarter of the story over several texts. And as the plot gets exciting, send a “to be continued tomorrow :)” text. He will probably complain, but this is a very deliberate way to get him hooked on and craving your next texts.
When you want to start the story back up, send a text: “I’m ready to continue my story. Are you ready? ;)” and await his reply before you begin.
When you reach the end of the movie script, you can let him know by texting” “The End :).” See what he replies with, but understand that he may not say anything right away. That’s totally ok!
Some guys won’t know quite what to say the first time you do this, but that does NOT mean he didn’t enjoy it.
EAM by Phone
Sharing your movie over the phone adds other elements that digital communication lacks. Your voice and the ability to have immediate back and forth of conversation definitely adds another level of sexiness. The bonus is that you still have the safety of appearing confident without him actually seeing if you are nervous.
Before you even think of picking up the phone, you will want to read through your movie several times out loud. This isn’t because you need to memorize it. This is so you can get comfortable hearing your own voice say these words.
Practicing gets you comfortable which lessens your nerves. Practice reading the script a few different ways. Alter the tone and cadence of your voice to find what feels good and sexy to you.
Again, you will likely feel really silly at first. But it’s important to play around with how your voice sounds. The more you get used to verbalizing your movie, the more confident you become, and the easier and more natural it will be during the phone call.
The first time you want to share your EAM (especially if it’s with the goal of orgasm), it’s best to plan it out. First, tell him you want to talk on the phone at a time where he is alone and not distracted. If this is your spouse, maybe when one of you is on a business trip. If this is your boyfriend (or someone you are dating) and you don’t live together, it’s easier. If you are in a long distance relationship, this can become a key part of your sex lives.
So you’ve selected the time for “the call.” He might have an inkling of what’s to come. This is good, anticipation is your friend here.
Before you call him up:
-
- Take some deep breaths
- Read over your list of what turns you on
- Read through your script and have your printout with you
- Put on lingerie or a sexy bra and panty set… or just be naked under the sheets
- Dim the lights
- Make sure all distractions and interruptions are at bay (children, pets, etc.).
- Have a vibrator or dildo handy if you want. Don’t have one? Go get yourself one! Ordering online is very discreet if the idea of going to a shop is too uncomfortable to you.
Remember: you are confident and sexy and you are about to totally blow his mind! 😉
I find that the best way to do this is to have a printout of your script. You don’t have to follow it word for word, but it helps.
If you want to do all of the talking and just let him listen, tell him at the beginning of the call. Just say you have a story to share and he can close his eyes, relax, and listen.
Remember to read slowly. Take your time. Breathe between lines.
When you reach the end of the script, you can ask him how enjoyed it. You can stay on the phone and continue a free-form conversation, or you can control the action and end the call there, leaving him to bask in the afterglow alone.
Personally, I recommend getting off the phone quickly after you finish so you keep the feeling of intimacy intact. If you move to other mundane topics related to daily living, it dilutes the power of the call.
EAM by Skype or Video Chat
With Skype, you have the ability to do a voice-only call, but here, I’m specifically talking about delivering this with video ON. You can also use Google Hangouts or FaceTime on an iPhone if you choose. The point is you will be able to see one another in real time.
Does that freak you out? It’s okay. Doing a video call is a more advanced form of delivery. For some of you, you may never feel up to doing a video call. Or you simply might not have the ability to if you live with other people or don’t have the technology. And that’s fine if you stay with text or phone.
I included video instructions for those of you who are comfortable with the medium or are adventurous enough to try it out.
The preparation is much the same as doing a phone call. Before you schedule the video call, you will want to practice reading through your script many times out loud.
You will also want to practice in front of the mirror. You will need to think about facial expressions since this is video. Think about being “in character” when you read through. Yes, you are playing yourself in the movie, but it’s okay to have a little fun and act a little bit.
With video, it is critical that you arrange the time with him. Let him know you want to do a video call when he can be totally alone and when you both won’t be interrupted.
With whatever application/program you are going to use, I recommend that you have at least one non-EAM video call.
Install the app and make sure you are in each other’s contacts, especially with Skype; I’ve found it can sometimes be finicky. You don’t want to rattle your nerves fighting with a program before sharing your movie!
Tell him you’d like to try out a video call so you can see his face. Just talk about whatever comes to mind. This is your trial tech run for your movie, only he doesn’t know that 😉
Before you call him up on video:
-
- Make sure you’ve done at least one video call together on the app so you are comfortable using the technology. Yes, I just said that above. It’s important, so listen to me 🙂
- Read over your list of what turns you on
- Read through your script and have your printout with you
- If you can, put on the outfit you describe in the movie (or a close approximation). If that isn’t possible, wear something sexy like lingerie or a silk robe.
- Make sure you’ve styled your hair and applied a little makeup so you feel pretty.
- Dim the lights slightly, but not so low that the camera doesn’t work
- Make sure all distractions and interruptions are at bay (children, pets, etc.)
Remember: you are confident and sexy and you are about to totally blow his mind! 😉
When you get him online, go ahead and tell him that you have a story you want to share with him.
Give him permission to sit back, watch, and listen.
When you reach the end of the script, let him know you are done. Just like with the phone call, I recommend ending it quickly. Keep in mind that he may have a raging boner at this point. And if he is slightly shy and didn’t masturbate during the video call, he may desperately want to do that right now.
Frequently Asked Questions
I’m nervous that my script is not very good.
It’s natural to feel that way! Keep in mind that he is not expecting this, so he doesn’t have any built-up expectations. It is not like going to see an Oscar-winning film or shelling out $ at the theater and getting disappointed. Remember, this is playful and fun and doesn’t have to be perfect. Just follow the templates if you need to, that’s a-ok.
I feel silly using this kind of language. It doesn’t sound like me (or him).
If the dialogue sounds totally like neither of you, you can alter it to be more realistic. However, this is a movie, and while you are each playing yourselves, you are playing creative versions or characters of yourselves. You have creative license to embellish and talk differently than you do in normal life. It may feel silly at first, but practicing will give you confidence. If phone or video still feels like too much after practicing, you can still have an awesome experience delivering it through text.
I don’t (or he doesn’t) use text messaging.
You can also use email instead. If you want to write out the entire script in one email or break it down into 2 or 3, you can do that. With email, you don’t need to break it down line by line—in fact, I don’t recommend doing that.
So use your personal email accounts only!
He replies back to my texts trying to contribute to the story.
If he tries to chime in and reply back with ideas to the storyline, you can do two things.
If you don’t want his input and want to be solely in control, let him know that you are delivering the story this time. Say “Shhhh… sweetheart. I’m delivering the story this time. Just sit back and let me share.”
Or, if you are open to improvising, begin to incorporate his ideas. You can try to keep the storyline close to the script or just run with it and see where both of your creative dirty minds take things!
Again, there is no right way or wrong way. Letting him participate can be a lot of fun… just as being the one in control can be, too.
I don’t (or he doesn’t) use Skype (or other video calling app).
That’s no big deal, you can keep your delivery to just text/email or phone. Or, if you feel up to it, you could share your script in person and even act it out.
I got to the end of the script, texted “The End”, and he didn’t reply back. What does that mean?
It could mean he masturbated and has now blissfully drifted off to dream-land. It could also mean he’s surprised and caught off-guard by this sexy side of you and isn’t sure what to say right now.
The important thing is to not panic! Assume the best. Give him some time to collect his thoughts. If you are apart due a trip or some other long-distance situation, send him a text the next day and ask something simple like “How is your day?” or “How’d you sleep last night?” See how he replies. You can then ask if he enjoyed your story. He might reply back only with a simple “Yes” or a smiley-face. That is good feedback!
Do you have other questions? You can always email us at Questions@digitalromanceinc.com
