This technique is all about the thrill of the chase… even after you’ve been caught.
The Tease Intensifier playfully puts you just out of reach to your man. It builds up a little tension and sexual frustration so that when you do let him “catch” you, the sizzle factor is high.
This technique is a mix and match of different elements. You don’t have to follow any of these steps in a particular order, and you can absolutely combine any of them in conjunction with other techniques.
Personally, I use pieces of the Tease Intensifier several times a week in my relationship…if not daily. It’s my “signature style” and I have absolute confidence that using this is a big part of what keeps my man constantly feeling like he can never get enough of me in his life.
And PSSST…single friends, listen up!
These three intensifiers are things you MUST be doing when you are dating. Flirting, teasing, and encouraging the chase are basically how you win over even the most die-hard bachelor and make him clamor for you to commit to him.
Teasing is confident. Teasing is fun. Teasing is pretty much everything in my opinion.
The Tease Kiss
With this, you are going to grab your man at a totally random time (ideally an inopportune time for sex) and lay a totally passionate kiss on him out of the blue.
Grab the back of his head. Push your body up against his. Use your tongue. Kiss him like you want to screw his brains out right that very second.
And then stop.
Go right back to what you were doing before. Leaving him reeling and off-kilter. And probably with a boner.
I use the Tease Kiss at times like…
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- he’s leaving for work and is in a rush or has an important meeting so he can’t stay to make good on the promise of my kiss
- right before walking into a social event that we are committed to attending
- while I’m cooking dinner and the oven timer is about to go off
- when the pizza delivery guy is pulling into the driveway and about to ring the doorbell
- one of us is leaving on a short outing or trip
- pulled aside quickly in a hallway or bathroom when we are with other people or at someone’s house
- at the end of a date where you absolutely won’t be winding up in bed together
The first few times you do this, he will probably ask you “Whoa, where did that come from?” or something to that affect. And you smile sweetly and say “you just turn me on so much sometimes I can’t control myself”.
After a few times, he’ll know the deal… you are doing it on purpose to tease him. It may seem like it will get old after awhile or he won’t respond the same way. If you space it out enough (like every couple of weeks), he will never tire of it. Even when he knows exactly what you are doing.
It gets his engine totally revved up and then cut off short. And because there is a real-life circumstance interrupting you, use that as another opportunity to tease him some more with the Tease Text.
The Tease Text
I love teasing via text message. Because you can use it for times you aren’t face to face…and you can also use it when you discreetly want to carry on a sexy conversation when you are in the same room with other people nearby (see Verbal Viagra in this module for that specifically!)
You set the tone for the teasing text with a quick little intro. This will become your signal to him that you are being playful and looking for him to engage with you.
If we were alone…
I wish…
Stop…
Mmmm…
Know what? 🙂
You have me soooo…
Leaving the ellipsis on the end tells him that there is more to that thought and gets his imagination revved up and he can’t help but respond. Then you follow up with the sexy reveal.
So it could go something like this:
You: If we were alone right now…
Him: If we were alone, what would happen? 🙂
You: I would be on my knees, in front of you…
Him: and then?
You: I’d take your dick out of your pants…
Him: and?
You: and you’d be groaning in pleasure. Damn, I wish we were alone!
Sometimes you might not get a response right away, especially if you aren’t face to face and can’t tell him to check his phone. You can decide to continue on and send the second part of your message after a few minutes. Or, you can simply wait.
If he doesn’t respond, you can amp up the tease. When you see or speak to him next, ask if he saw your text. When he says “yes, what were you going to say?” you can say “only good boys who reply back get to know what was on my mind” and change the subject. This trains him to pay attention and reply if he wants the reward 🙂
With the Tease Text, you can be as sweetly naughty or as flat-out raunchy as you want to be. While I know that my guy loves it when I talk super dirty with him, I like to vary it up. Because that is part of the tease…he will never be quite sure what he’s about to read next.
Here are several variations you could use, from sweet to explicit.
If you were here / If we were alone…(wait for his reply, then send)
…I wouldn’t be able to keep my hands off of you.
…I would take you in my mouth, licking and sucking until you lose control
…you could bend me over the back of a chair and take me…hard and fast.
…I’d be stroking your hard cock and begging you to fuck me.
…I’d be face down, ass up so you could fill me up soooo deep.
I wish… (wait for his reply, then send)
…all these people weren’t here and I could have my way with you right now 😉
…I could rip those jeans off of you 😉
…you could feel exactly how turned on and wet I am right now
Mmmmm… (wait for his reply, then send)
…do you have any idea how much you turn me on?
…you look so fucking sexy right now in that suit you are wearing
…I can’t stop thinking of your amazing penis. And how bad I want you right now!
Stop… (wait for his reply, then send)
…making me so horny. I can’t focus on the game (speech, conversation, my work, etc.)
…distracting me with your sexy ass 😉
…filling my head with deliciously dirty ideas (then go on to describe)
You have me sooo… (wait for his reply, then send)
…turned on. Can we leave early? I want you so bad right now!
…wet right now.
…horny right now. I need you to fuck me badddd
…so fucking turned on. I need you inside of me, filling me up, making me moan LOUD right now.
One of the keys to mastering Tease Texting and dirty talk in general is understanding that this a dance you are doing with your partner. And in dancing, sometimes the tempo goes at a furious pace and other times, it slows way down. That is part of what keeps it interesting.
After you’ve had a raunchy round of texting, the next time I want you to dial things all the way back to PG-land. Tease him by making him think you are about to get dirty but then put on your best Little Miss Innocent act.
Example:
You: I can’t stop thinking about…
Him: Yeah? 😉
You: The new handbag I just saw. I really want to get it!
Him: Oh.
You: What did you think I was going to say? 😉
Or tease him like this:
You: Oh wow…
Him: What?
You: It’s pouring out! I just got so wet running to the car.
Him: Oh really? 😉
You: Get your mind out of the gutter, mister. I’m talking about the weather! 😉
No matter if he tries to steer the convo to dirty talk, you resist. Change the subject. Tease. Flirt. But keep it sweet and innocent.
Yes, this is likely going to confuse him. It may even frustrate him. That’s totally fine. You want to keep him guessing from time to time. This keeps him engaged and chomping at the bit for your naughty side to return.
Innuendo Tease
Innuendo Tease is the more subtle cousin of the Tease Text. It’s powerful because it displays confidence and wit and it’s a way to steer an otherwise proper conversation toward something naughty. Adding a little verbal spice with a wink and a nod playfully gets his attention.
Much like the way a burlesque dancer hints at her body using props, using innuendo the right way gives your man a sneak peek to your sexy side that is just slightly out of his grasp. This gives him a little frustration and it keeps him invested in the chase. Especially in a long-term relationship.
It also has him looking forward to even the most banal conversations with you because he just never knows what might come out of your mouth. Keeping him hooked and on his toes is a fun way to build that sexual tension.
So, how do you inject a little sexual innuendo into a conversation?
The first step is to look for opportunities. Trigger words like wet, hot, hard, rocking, sliding, top, etc. are easy places to start.
Examples:
Him: Wow, it’s so stormy out today!
You: Hmmm, yes, I went outside and got all wet 😉
Him: The sales presentation went great. I think my bid will come out on top.
You: Being on top is the best 😉
Him: What movie should we go see?
You: How about something stimulating with a great ending 😉
The kicker is when he responds to your use of innuendo, you playfully go back to the proper conversation you were having:
Him: Wow, it’s so stormy out today!
You: Hmmm, yes, I went outside and got all wet 😉
Him: Oh really, you are all wet right now? 😛
You: Yes, my hair is a mess. Now, what time will you be home? 🙂
Him: The sales presentation went great. I think my bid will come out on top.
You: Being on top is the best 😉
Him: I like it when you are on top too 😉
You: Haha, so yes, let me know when you hear back from the client on your bid.
Him: What movie should we go see?
You: How about something stimulating with a great ending 😉
Him: You are in the mood for a “happy ending”, huh? 😉
You: Hmmm…yes. Later. The new Spike Jonze one is playing at 7:30. Want to see that?
When texting, use the little winky face to let him know you are purposely flirting. In person, you can actually wink or raise an eyebrow.
The key to the Innuendo Tease to use it selectively. You don’t want to turn every reply into something sexual. Like Michael Scott did in The Office where he added “that’s what she said” into every conversation (even though it became funny because he was so clueless). It gets juvenile and tedious when it’s overdone.
When you notice that he adds in some innuendo to your conversations, acknowledge it. You can banter back to mirror his train of thought. Or you can playfully call him a naughty boy and steer it back to the proper topic. But you definitely want to acknowledge his efforts positively even if you find what he’s saying not that funny.
